They leave you with more than enough emotional baggage as it is and ultimately you have to decide how much drama, ambiguity, and game playing you want to be involved in.
You don’t have to declare war or be nasty, but you don’t need to be friends, and in actual fact, you can keep these men at a polite distance if you have to come into contact with them. Baggage Reclaim is a guide to learning to live and love with self-esteem by breaking the patterns that stand in your way.
They then play silly games like sending dumb emails and text messages, calling up on the pretext of seeing how you are, and turning up unexpectedly when they’ve actually turned up for sex.
They say insincere bullsh*t like they really care about you and wish things could be different and blah blah blah They don’t wish things could be different at all and the one thing their ego can’t cope with is you no longer being interested, but they know enough about you to know that you have low enough self-esteem to keep them in your life.
This puts you in a difficult situation, because personally, I don’t think that you wanting to stay friends with someone who is patently selfish and who at no point has put your needs either equal to or above his own is a sign of someone who would make a good friend.