As to physical intimacy, many long-distance couples have told me that because they are not physically close to one another as often, they actually experience Um, no. Be deliberate about avoiding "marital" levels of intimacy.
If you've forgotten the cardinal rule of engagement, re-read "Tips for Engagement." Engagement is a great thing, but it's not marriage. Choice two is to stay in school and put the relationship on hold. Wait until a responsible time to start the relationship back up.
In the meantime, the "we're already committed" rationalization tends to make couples feel free to act in all sorts of ways they didn't before, and every argument I've made in this series applies ), but that doesn't mean that anyone who uses that language is automatically correct.
It may, as a practical matter, necessitate addressing issues and being a bit more intimate than they were before, but the simple fact is that couples break up even after engagement. By the way, more than one set of Christian parents have relented on this question in the face of If you’ve enjoyed this article, will you consider giving a tax-deductible gift to Boundless right now?
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Sadly, statistics and anecdotal experience both indicate that even the couples who spend time in dating relationships of any length, sin physically.
The longer the relationship, the higher the percentage.
If our goal is to move positively toward God-glorifying lives (rather than simply to "walk the line" by attempting to satisfy our fleshly desires as much as possible without sinning), wisdom and godliness would seem to counsel keeping relationships shorter.