In Matthew 22, Jesus was asked what is the most important commandment.
He replied, "' Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.' This is the first and greatest commandment." He then threw in another one for free, saying, "And the second is like it: `Love your neighbor as yourself.' All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments" (Mt. Surely this is a passage that will say much for every topic facing a Christian, including the matter of dating.
Let's start with the second of those commandments, "Love your neighbor as yourself." Already we have entered into distinctly Christian territory.
A principal motive when you are on a date, whether you are a man or a woman, is to be concerned for the other person's well-being.
However, I think the questioner has something else in mind.