Timeliness is as important as integrity in a relationship (Prov. To respect timeliness in what you allow yourself to feel and how you express it does not devalue your emotions through suppression. Yet we often talk about sexual purity as putting our hearts in a cage only to be unlocked in on the wedding day.
Rather, good timing honors the sanctity of romantic emotions and their rightful end (Song of Solomon 8:4). I fear what that view of sexuality would look like in marriage.
We ask physical and quantitative questions: “How many inches can I move my hand? So here are some ways to think about not only physical boundaries but also several fundamental aspects of personhood. Love presupposes freedom, and freedom presupposes the relational safety to say “no.” (2) Emotional boundaries promote relational health.
But a truly Christian conception of boundaries in dating will not only draw physical boundaries (as if dating was merely a relationship between two Christian bodies).
Dependence or co-dependence cede that which God has granted to every person in his image by divine right (Matt. It is wrong for a person to have a kind of control in a romantic context that God does not call any person to give to another (see 2 Sam. We never owe anyone a specific emotion or a particular amount of it. You are each your own person walking with God and neighbor, and you undercut your ability to give love in a safe and stable way as soon as you become anything less.