Instead, it is a time where a lot of personal growth and development can be found.
The chemistry is there and you’re on the same page about many things, but often your careers will be at different stages, which could lead to resentment, says Amber Soletti, founder of On Speed and Singleandthe
“Being older, you’re more successful and established, while he’s still climbing the corporate ladder or even getting a career going,” she says.
“They don’t want to miss out on being part of their group, with whom they glean their identity.”Although you may be ready to walk down the aisle, it can be hard to get a younger man to put a ring on it.
“In some cases, a younger guy is developmentally in a different place,” says psychotherapist Robi Ludwig.
“He’s not ready for all of the pressures and responsibilities that go along with a committed relationship because his emotional maturity is not fully developed yet.” He’s either scared of love or loves you but feels like marriage means giving up his freedom, she adds—and that means you could be looking at girlfriend status for the long term.