Today, thanks to my guest Dan Rock, you will discover the sometimes subtle, sometimes BIG differences between French & American dating cultures. What differences did you see between the French culture and yours? ), but mainly because of all those unwritten rules and HUGE cultural traps!
I completely disagree with the idea that suggesting a second date would seem 'too forward' I suspect it may often be the only way to get anywhere.
The absence of a 'spark' that you mentioned could be because they interpret your behaviour as cool or uptight (how's that for reversing stereotypes? Also, because 'dating' is not part of British culture, a lot of men view dates as a one-off interview and if by the end of it they don't think they will fall in love you, or sleep with you they don't see any point in asking you out again.
I am not the only American woman that has the problem, as several of my fellow countrywomen complain of the same thing with the lovely men of these shores. I am not aggressive or pushy or shy or any of the stereotypical things that would turn a man off.
Back home a date that stretched on - by the man's own suggestion, not mine - from drinks, to dinner, to after dinner coffee, with conversation throughout - and then possibly even a good-night kiss would mean he was interested in at least getting to know the woman better! It seems that I can engage in good conversation and emails, even telephone conversations prior to the dates ...
:)Not because of the language barrier (you always find ways to communicate!