Some men might not be alpha-texters, out hunting for a blonde in hoop earrings. She puts in her blue or green contacts, and she checks the chart on page 66 to ascertain Minimum Text-Back Time.
"The biggest criticism I hear from girls is, 'how can I be with someone if I can't be myself? As ever, the answer is clear and irrefutable: "Make it yourself.
I don’t need to do this.'" But, she persevered despite his protestations. " she continues, "But, that's kind of what you want." Soon enough, he was pleading for a response.
Texting is Vanessa's forte (she later wrote a book titled, For example, "Over a three-day weekend, I didn’t respond to 12 of his texts," Vanessa explains. "He'd be like, 'It would be really great to hear from you, just a simple hi.'" Still, she let him dangle, even when she sensed him getting upset: "He might get a little angry, but he didn't want to seem like a nutcase." In Vanessa's case, the method worked. "One of my clients had a guy threaten to break up with her when she wouldn't respond to his texts.
I spoke with Vanessa Taylor, a Rules Coach based in Los Angeles.