Steer clear of these topics until you know each other better. Your 25-year-old may want to linger and go down the rabbit hole trying to figure it all out. Take care of yourself by initiating a conversation and sharing your needs and wants. This keeps you open to someone who might not be your type. Keep your body language open, play with your hair, smile, touch his arm.
The grown-up dater gives him a reasonable amount of time to show up, and then says a big “So what! If you are dealing with a grown-up man he will appreciate and respect you for it. (Because after all, your type hasn't worked or you would be reading this.) 5.
And since I am mostly heterosexual and know it more thoroughly than queerness, I will focus on that type of dating here.
Rather than project outdated, oppressive and very boring rules on her, embrace the beauty of a woman telling you exactly who she is and how she would like to be treated.
People, like myself, born in the 1950’s and early 1960’s were raised with some heavy patriarchal programming, and yet by the late 60’s and 70’s, the women’s liberation and gay rights movements began to dismantle that programming.