Here are a few of them:“If you answered 'yes' to one or more of the questions above, your opposite-sex friendship may be a real threat to the quality of your marriage,” Linaman says.
“It may even be in the best interest of your marriage to either significantly limit or actually end your close friendship.”An informal survey shows that both married men and women were uncomfortable with their spouse having close friendships with the opposite sex.
”The young couple stares slack-jawed at my friend sitting across the room. We can’t change the date if you think we’re somehow not ready! We love one another and will fight for our marriage and do whatever it takes!
They adjust uneasily in their seats and look to one another trying to decipher what type of trick question this is. He leans back and adjusts his horn-rimmed glasses knowing all too well the protests that are about to occur and braces for them.“So let’s say then, after a few weeks, we come to the decision that there are communication issues and red flags that still very much need to be addressed and ask you to wait a while longer until you get married. So that you can grow together a little longer as a couple and have a vibrant and healthy relationship that isn’t plagued by disunity. ”The gears in the young woman’s mind begin to turn quickly. ”The young woman looks pleased with her answer hoping she has convinced my friend. And thus our marriages are plagued by massive communication issues, simply because our dating relationships continue to set us up for failure.
As people marry later in life, many are bringing long-term opposite-sex friendships into their marriage relationship.