The most important thing not to do in a relationship where two people come from different backgrounds is to use your cultural values as the standard for what is “right” or to your advantage in a way that diminishes your partners lived experiences.
It isn’t fair to compete with your mate in a way that they aren’t cut out for, especially when you know you are wrong.
In relationships where people come from different backgrounds, more compromise is often needed to maintain the highest level of compatibility.
If two people truly are in love, they will go above and beyond what is necessary to transcend their culture and make things work, often by creating a new and improved lifestyle in the process.
We find that in Spain and in Belgium, the party divide is quite intense and competes with these other very salient social ethnic divides.