Maybe you’d like to go on dates more regularly or see him a few times during the week.Tell yourself that you will be fine with things for the time being, and if nothing changes in two weeks, then you can be upset about it and deal with it.This little exercise will help you train your mind to stay calm and avoid spinning into a frenzy.
It is not there to serve you and give you things like happiness and self-esteem.
It is not there to make you feel good about life and about yourself.
For example, let’s say you start seeing a new guy and things are going great. You feel a sense of dread deep in your gut and you know, you just know, that he’s never coming back.
You talk regularly, go on fun dates, it seems to be going really well. Meanwhile, in boy land, he’s been really slammed at work and has barely had a minute to come up for air.
This isn’t to say a relationship can’t do these things, it’s just that these aren’t the elements upon which a healthy relationship is built. A relationship is an experience to be had and shared.