That I would never blame it on having a partner, because I should be allowed to just not like someone and not feel bad about it."Gillian, 23 "I don't like to condone lying, BUT I lie constantly when it comes to dating and/or getting out of dating. To be fair, I usually pull this crap with Tinder dates and I'm much nicer with actual prospects, set-ups, and people I've actually met IRL.
I have a really nasty habit (working on it) of bailing on a date hours before it's supposed to happen, usually with the old, 'Oh shit, I'm sorry, my boss just told me I have to work late. But yes, I am rude and terrible, and I'm sure my karma is so stacked against me at this point that I will be single for life." Lauren, 28 "When a guy asks me on a date over text I pull the awkward, 'Suuuure, let's find a dayyyy,' and then am vague, noncommittal, and generally annoying until we can both agree that life is SO crazy right now and...*FADED* because I'm nonconfrontational and don't know how to be a real person.
For more tips from our Mental Health reviewer, including how to deal with any lingering guilt, read on! I am a people pleaser, it is a part of me I really want to change. I enjoy solitude, though, and do not like jealousy, vanity, or needy partners.
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I wish you all the best and appreciate the time we spent getting to know one another.'” — April Beyer, Matchmaker and Dating & Relationship Coach for Women.