See if any of these situations sound familiar: If you identify with any of these situations, I will let you in on a secret: the “problem” in each of these scenarios is not that the man is shy or inexperienced.
The underlying issue is that he is just not interested enough in starting up a relationship with that particular woman.
By not “helping” him date you, you are letting him know that you see him as the competent adult man that he is. If he approaches you and you start dating, trust that he can figure out what to do.
(I like smart, nerdy, shy guys so much, I married one.) It's not surprising: these men tend to be quiet leaders — successful and widely respected.
There is an art to dating introverted men, though, and this article will help you decide if this personality type is your best match.
If each woman in situations 1 - 7 were to get the ball rolling herself, or help the man date her and make excuses for his behavior, she would simply be prolonging the agony of being in a go-nowhere entanglement.
That's not "dating a shy man," that's accepting crumbs from a guy who is just killing time.
The Rules definitely do work within any relationship, with any man.