No, she just went dark to avoid an awkward situation. Had Tanya really done anything that rude or malicious? We'd been flirting at a birthday party, and when things were winding down, she offered to drop me off at home. When she was leaving, I said, "Tanya, you're a charming lady...." She said, "Aziz, you're a charming guy." The encounter seemed promising. I wasn't head over heels for Tanya, but she seemed cool, and it felt like we had a good connection. The big changes—technological developments like smartphones, online dating, and social media sites—are obvious. In a very short period, the whole culture of searching for love and a mate has radically changed.
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A few years ago there was a girl in my life—let's call her Tanya. At the time, I was subletting a pretty nice house up in the Hollywood Hills. As everyone in the room had agreed, we were both charming people. As I waited for her response, I pictured our hypothetical relationship. By then I was panicked: Should I have typed "Hey" with two y's, not just one? A century ago people would find a decent person who lived in their neighborhood.
Not long after, I started dating an amazing woman who was beautiful, funny, and a chef (at the time, she worked at Momofuku Milk Bar). Having a going-away dinner for one of the milk bar gals. Also—never seen you do stand-up, DEF want to get down on that. Hey—let's do Minca tonight at , and we'll go to Comedy Cellar after and I'll drop in. My skill on a scale of 1-10...hmm, let's just say I'm kinda like the Hokey Pokey cookie of stand-up comedy.
Pretty soon we were staying home, cooking food, and doing nothing all the time. Of course a lot of our early relationship played out on the screens of our phones. BTW: The Hokey Pokey cookie is a reference to a cookie made at my girlfriend's restaurant, one I knew she loved.
There I was, maniacally checking my phone, going through this tornado of panic, all because this person hadn't written me a short message on a dumb little phone.