Having a relationship with God is priority number one in your life regardless of your relationship status.As a single adult, you have the ability to have an amazing relationship with the one who created you before ever bringing someone else into your life.
There are no garbage bags in healthy relationships. Often people come from such insecure childhoods they can only hope that their adult life will include a relationship that allows them to rest in the arms of someone who really cares. When we shift from trying to use others to satisfy our security needs to trying to meet the security needs of others, we find ourselves in a new dimension. We are filling their doubts and fears with the reassurance of our consistent behavior. We become, in a word, loving: other-focused and totally selfless. It is wonderful to be vulnerable, to do an emotional free fall and have someone there to catch you.
Out of love, the partners take the hurt and disappointment of the past and burn it up in the flames of forgiveness. So much of life is lived on the edge of risk, we feel an overwhelming need for at least one relationship to make us feel safe. That is the kind of love that drives out fear and provides genuine security. That delightful taste of vulnerability enables you to open up even more, discover more about who you are, appreciate all the good that God has created in you.
A healthy heart involved in healthy relationships is the precise opposite of addiction.
Addiction maintains a secret life marked by fear and control.
Recovery without healthy relationships only perpetuates the sinful self-obsession that led to addiction in the first place.