Many people automatically assume butch women are lesbians because of their masculinity, and those same people show surprise when feminine women identify as lesbian.
There are spaces for gay men, lesbian women, bisexual women, and trans women to express femininity.
There are few, if any, arenas in which bisexual men, queer in our own right, have the space to express femininity without fear of our sexuality being nullified.
I also had on my one-of-a-kind black sequin jacket—the one that, when the designer said, “It’s vintage,” I said, “Say no more.” My face was painted club-kid chic, and, despite my broad shoulders, I moved around with a certain sassy elegance: All-in-all, I was definitely serving some femme realness.
Alone, I blended in quite nicely with the queer mosaic of the crowd.
Add femme behavior, and you’ve really got a problem.