We all have difficult people in our lives, yet God calls us to love them well.
To do this, make all your decisions based on what will best promote the other person’s spiritual and eternal good. These are questions we have to answer if we ever hope to live and love well.
So how do you determine the best way to love that tough person? If you own your part of the problem, the other person will be more likely to accept your boundaries. Invite them to change – The first step in confronting someone should never be a limit, but always an invitation to change. Warn them – If you just set limits out of the blue, this person may feel ambushed and become angry at you. Patience means providing the ingredients for growth while allowing that person time to respond. Follow through with consequences – Remember that consequences have nothing to do with anger, revenge, or punishment.
(John -26 NIV) “Righteous Father, though the world does not know you, I know you, and they know that you have sent me.
I have made you known to them, and will continue to make you known in order that the love you have for me may be in them and that I myself may be in them.” As the revelation of God’s love for us increases through knowing God more intimately, so also our love for God increases.
The Holy Spirit, the Spirit of Love, is what unifies us with God and with others who are part of Christ’ body of believers.(John -17 NIV) “If you love me, you will obey what I command.
And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Counselor to be with you forever– the Spirit of truth.
Relationships go bad because one or both people loose their focus on Jesus in the relationship.