My boyfriend’s MFA is in writing, obviously something that I’m interested in as well, and he sometimes jokes that by being with him I’m getting a free MFA.
I get to go with him when poets and novelists come to his school to read their work, I get to read the literature on his syllabus when he’s working on something else, and I get to have great conversations with him about writing.
Your partner's social group is also often comprised of other individuals in his field of study.
You can endeavor to try a new activity each week -- or each month if your schedules are too demanding.
Alternatively, take turns introducing each other to favorite activities of your own to help your partner get to know you better.
Plus, I’m trying to figure out whether a writing MFA would be a good time investment for me, and talking to my boyfriend and his fellow students is giving me a lot of insight into how the program works. Obviously, grad students are using a lot of energy on their program instead of on their relationships. On the bright side, the busy-ness issues mean that my time-management skills are really getting polished.
Every Saturday, I write out all of our obligations for the week, and try to tweak our schedules so we have time together.
Option one makes your relationship more unstable, but going for option two requires a lot of trust. I won’t lie: when we got close to the three week deadline that the more experienced student had given us, I had a huge crying fit.