You’re left wondering what went wrong and analyzing (and reanalyzing and reanalyzing) things with your friends. While we’ll never be able to fully understand guys (and we probably wouldn’t want to), you can learn from these moments.
We found 10 women in your situation and asked experts to give their insights on what happened so you can dodge future dating disasters.
And if you do plan a movie date, make sure there’s a plan for afterwards—dates where you only talk for five minutes aren’t really that fun. You’ve decided you want to spend at least 90 more minutes with somebody. You still shouldn’t sit through a whole dinner at a grown-up restaurant.
Maybe try an activity (one coworker polled started a Lego project with a dude on date two and loved it; I once had great fun ending an early date at a piano bar sing-along), or eat something casual and then enjoy a leisurely, romantic walk to a bar afterwards. If you actually enjoy cooking and people who aren’t your mom have told you that you’re not bad at it, cook your date dinner.
The tips got pretty specific in some cases: It’s 28 percent better for a male to refer to females as women rather than girls, and men who use “whom” get 31 percent more contacts from the opposite sex.