He says he wants my advice, but I think he’s already made his mind up.
On the other hand, if I say it’s a good idea and it doesn’t work out, I’ll feel responsible.
So what do you guys think, how soon is too soon to get engaged?
You have to believe in what you say and put yourself on the line. If there’s even a hint of weakness and the girl picks up on it, the opener will fall flat.
When you have confidence from your success with other openers, or if you’re confident because you can tell the girl is attracted to you, bring out the direct opener and it’ll be fantastic.
The “Hey” is followed by a pause, to ensure that you have the attention of the group before you deliver your actual opener. ” (Pause as group looks at you.) “Do you guys…” Actually, you’ve got a little leeway here: the pre-opener can be anything that gets the attention of the group: “Hey! Elements of a Successful Opener The opener is the first real thing you say during an interaction, once you’ve taken the stage with your pre-opener.