“Racial groups are not homogenous,” reiterated Childs. You and your partner don’t have to agree, but you should know where each other stand and try to understand each other’s perspectives.” For my part, I had to face the stereotypes I had about white Southerners.
“African-American people have different perspectives; some may support Black Lives Matter, and others don’t. To be honest, I just assumed that deep down, he and his family were probably racist.
“Silence is really the enemy,” said Erica Chito Childs, a Hunter College sociology professor who has researched and written extensively about interracial relationships.
"Just like you’d ask a partner about their views on marriage, children and where to live, you should also understand their approach to racial issues.
Would it have been different if my husband were Indian? “In the past few years, I’ve been needing more connection with my culture, I listen to more Latin music now, I watch movies in Spanish — I need those touchstones now, in a way I didn’t before,” said Alejandra Ramos, a TODAY Tastemaker who is Puerto Rican and has been married to a Ukranian-born Jewish man for seven years.
As with any successful relationship, your partner can’t be your everything.
“Interracial relationships don’t work.” I’ve heard that from various people all my life.