It appears as though as though your partner has all the strength.
But it's just the opposite -- real power is the ability to maintain intimacy. Power and strength of this caliber have no fear of being honest and direct.
So let's reverse engineer what makes a relationship a good one.
A hot and cold player reverts to cold as the norm, with bursts of hot that don't result in forward movement.
The root cause of this behavior is a desperate attempt to gain control over the uncontrollable; love. But the partner, who's committed to playing safe, will never allow himself or herself to experience love.
They're not sorting out their last breakup, and they're not swamped at work. The hot/cold scenario typifies much more than a lack of certainty on a lover's part. You quickly find yourself craving more of this delicious new feeling.
This phase lures you into the hopes of the possibility of romance.
They'll toy at it, dipping their toes in and out of the water without ever getting wet.