I hit on this waitress at a local restaurant and she's all smiles, didn't hesitate to give me the digits, seemed excited about it in fact. You said you can handle a no, well a lot of dudes can't and keep pushing. Let's keep in touch though, you never know." Then two days later she shows up wearing no panties and spends the night. Then after that she gives me the cold shoulder, and tells me she made a mistake. On the flip side, though, I've been ignoring this one girl's texts for the past week. May be somewhat interested then, but not so much later.
It just makes no god damn sense what happened here. Couple days later Christmas is here, so I send her a Merry Christmas text. That's why you go by the rule "actions, not words" - giving a phone number is an action, but the actual level of commitment is really on the level of words. Let's keep in touch though, you never know." Then two days later she shows up wearing no panties and spends the night. Then after that she gives me the cold shoulder, and tells me she made a mistake. On the flip side, though, I've been ignoring this one girl's texts for the past week. Originally Posted by Arjen I'm guessing it's easier for them just giving their number be done with it and then ignore you. "Oh I like you, but I told this other guy I'd be exclusive with him.
I leave her a voicemail (this confirmed it was the real number because her answering machine says her full name). She seemed kinda shy about the whole thing but, again, like the other two girls she didn't much hesitate to give me her number. This is incredibly hard especially when you just want to be friends. Seems like you're picking up women in situations where they aren't mentally ready to shut a guy down so they just postpone it.
Third time this happened I hit on a girl at the super market. In my experience, once you get the number, keep the calls/texts to an absolute minimum until you get on that date. It also drove me nuts when single and basically started a policy of, you flake on me once you're dead to me unless you are the ones making plans next time. A lot guys develop this passive aggressive women frustration because of this. You're not interested in all the women you meet, neither are they.
*shrugs* Originally Posted by Adrian Werner Easier than to say no. I ask if they want to go out some time and if so we should exchange numbers. I knew it was weird as fuck, but it was so fucking odd that the only rational reason I could think of was "Ok, maybe she's gonna break up with him or something soon? I ask if they want to go out some time and if so we should exchange numbers. If they call, great; I know we can make plans and then it's on. Girls are often too polite to say they are not interested which I understand.