When they see their partner upset, it reassures them that they care. Dr Brenda Shoshanna, psychologist, workshop leader, is the award-winning author of many books.
Others have seen their parents fighting and this is the only role model they have. Her most recent book "Jewish Dharma (Guide to the Practice of Judaism and Zen)," offers new ways of healing both relationships and all aspects of our lives.
When time comes for intimate conversation guys clam up, offer a few grunts and expect women to magically understand what's going on. However, something else many don't realize is, men are more fragile than women.
In order for them to talk, things have to be right.
The bottom line is these may not feel they deserve a relationship, they feel they can't hold onto a partner because they haven't accepted themselves.