A widowed partner who comes from a mutually satisfying relationship tends to take longer to find love.
That person knows what it takes to sustain fulfillment and growth.
For example, if the parent and adult child are—or were–argumentative and critical of each other, they risk bringing that kind of relationship into the adult child’s home.
The surviving widows, adult children and grandchildren should develop together new guidelines of behavior and words—and post them in the kitchen.
When my husband died I told the children I would never get married again.