She’s heard all the tired chat-up lines and stories, and can spot if you’re anything but genuine.
If your intentions for dating older women are genuine, you won’t have a problem.
Not every older woman is looking for a long-term relationship with a younger man.
The study also found that guys regularly message women much younger than their “looking for” information suggests (see Dataclysm by Christian Rudder). This disparity is likely a mix of lack of opportunity to date younger women, and that a lot of older guys just can’t compete with younger guys in many areas of attractiveness.
So, despite occasional stories of elite older guys (like celebrities) dating much younger women, age-gap relationships are pretty rare. Despite media hype, one recent large, cross-cultural study showed that, outside of the Hollywood imagination, the concept of “cougars” is largely a myth, and that women still prefer dating older men, and men younger women.
She may already have children, which will bring its own challenges and rewards.
A responsibility like children will restrict spontaneity and you won’t always be the priority in her life.
and “daddy issues” used to shame the woman involved.