The old 1995 code stated that counselors were to avoid sexual intimacies with former clients within two years of termination.
She can say anything to him and he doesn't judge her, but only seems to understand her better.
She feels safe and comforted whenever she sees him.
Relational/cultural theory frames this as striving for a “power with” instead of a “power over” relationship.
DK: So the reason that the 2005 ACA Code of Ethics continues to give no leeway and to ban all sexual or romantic interactions with clients is because we know that harm always occurs when that happens? Even if it appears on the surface that a client is open to a sexual/romantic relationship, there are always things that happen, and the client could later turn around and say that he or she wasn’t able to make a decision that was in their best interest at the time and therefore felt coerced.
It is not culturally appropriate to make assumptions about a client’s worldview of who is and who is not a family member. In the case mentioned, neither the client nor the counselor was aware of this situation, and therefore the counselor would not break off her engagement or wedding plans.