“This is why some speed dating research has found that the person who sits and is approached is typically more liked than the one who rotates around the room.” Make an effort to get to your meet-up ahead of time, order a drink and relax.If nothing else, it will be a much more pleasant way to start a first date. Ditch your comfort zone Talking about your biggest insecurities, hopes and regrets might sound more like fodder for a therapy session than a first date.You don’t have to go so far as to bungee jump during your first outing—but it can’t hurt to get a little creative.
Driven by a phenomenon known as misattribution of arousal, men who walked over the unsteady bridge were more likely to ask out the interviewer.
The theory is that their brain mistook their heightened state of anxiety for sexual excitement.
This is an area that has been very productive in terms of value that the evolutionary approach has added,” he continued.
“You really understand what’s going on in human mating psychology because we’ve been applying this idea, this evolutionary lens to human social behavior.” Having published more than 100 papers and been cited more than 6,000 times, it’s hard to say which part of Kurzban’s extensive work history is the most influential, but his research about speeding dating is a great place to start.
“Additionally, any time an intense emotion, like fear, is involved in a new situation, it makes a more powerful impact than a solely intellectual encounter because it activates the amygdala,” says Sundem.