It was okay that we did this because we did not, you know… I forced him into the friend zone and made sure we did not cross the line.
I kept telling myself I wouldn’t go there with him, he was special. I saw him as the exact man of my dreams, and then I felt sick.
Most people later in life will have 'history' (other partners, children, and probably a bit of emotional baggage) so it is perfectly OK to mention some of that when you meet a new date, but keep it at that.
If you find yourself constantly name-checking people and/or events from your past, remember your date is interested in who you are, and not everyone else in your life.
To say my children are part of the package would be insulting.