So, too, does an up-front conversation about sexually transmitted diseases (STDs).
"The risks of STDS have got to be discussed and prevented from spreading," Allen tells Web MD.
'" When directing her advice on dating rules to a male audience, Mc Clary puts things a little differently.
"If you just want a one-night stand, you owe it to your partner to tell them 'it's just sex I'm after,'" Mc Clary tells Web MD.
While a dating partner may not welcome this news, it at least can minimize later disappointments.
Other experts agree that sex too-soon can lead to undesirable consequences.
"It becomes much more difficult to objectively see each other's character traits" says Susanne Alexander, a relationship coach and author of Can We Dance? "Some couples then slide into engagement and marriage only to discover they have missed seeing major aspects of each other." While not every dating scenario that involves sex leads to marriage or even a serious relationship, couples do owe it to themselves to talk about where they see their relationship going and how sex might change the relationship -- before they get in bed together. The woman may assume sex implies a commitment; the man may not see it that way," Allen tells Web MD.
Mc Clary believes all daters should invest the same amount of time conducting these 'self' conversations about personal dating rules as they do primping before a big date.