"The courtship culture is just much less aggressive here," acknowledges Colin Hodge, 28, CEO of Down, an app that lets users connect to date or "get down." He says that many men might find women in the Bay Area harder to approach, partly because there aren't as many of us to go around.
Kevin Lewis, an assistant professor of sociology at UC San Diego, blames the Bay Area's progressive gender norms, with men less likely to believe they need to make the first move.
"It's easier when you have a script to follow - that is, 'You're a guy, you have to do the work here,' " Lewis says. To increase my odds of going on a date, I developed a thrillingly distracting Tinder habit.
In debates with his single female friends who waited for men to make the first move, the Bay Area native noted, "Probably precisely the type of guy you're interested in meeting would love to have a confident, attractive woman come up to him and make the first move." But Mr. Like the So Ma-based app Down, Tinder is one of a number of digital platforms that allows users to look for love (or lust) while standing in line or riding a bus - not sitting in front of a computer.
The city of San Francisco, “Home of the 49ers,“ also happens to have a considerable population of singles infected with the “49er Syndrome.”I’ll let you on in a little secret.