\n My mother never understood what I liked about Hugh, my banker boyfriend with the sarcastic sense of humor and pin-striped suspenders, who would often come over to "watch movies" in my room while we were both living at home postcollege...until she walked in on us having sex and saw his, um, biggest asset. Somewhere between "How do you want your steak cooked? My crime wasn't that I was DTF, but that I didn't lock the door." and "Jesus, Mary, and Joseph...," my world went from almost orgasmic to unspeakably awkward. (Eventually, Hugh got the shaft.)This was several years ago, and I guess I was ahead of my time, because today a whopping 43 percent of recent college grads are living at home while they look for stable employment or save money from low-pay starter jobs—they call it the Bounceback Generation.
"Twice, I've had old flames stay over, but the clown nose was inescapable. I think hooking up is officially impossible in there." The solution?
"Now when I visit my parents, I do hookups elsewhere, reverting to teenage lying tactics about staying at girlfriends' homes.
"I'd waited a long time for someone special to come around.
I wasn't going to let all that tension screw it up."Tina V., 26, a nurse from Washington, D.
There's even a TV show about moving home as an adult: ABC's "How to Live With Your Parents (for the Rest of Your Life)."My parents were pretty cool about my playdates on the Polo sheets, but when it comes to dating and hooking up, most 'rents have rules. Plus, when you combine the stresses of dating plus the stresses of family—you could find yourself in a rough situation."The fact that you're a sexual adult is normal and ultimately a necessary reality for your parents to face," says research psychologist Peggy Drexler, Ph D, author of two books about gender and family, "but that doesn't mean it will be easy.""We already act like teenagers when we like someone," says relationship expert Andrea Syrtash, author of "He's Just Not Your Type." "Our brains are pumping dopamine, oxytocin, and other powerful chemicals that may skew our judgment and make us extra sensitive.