For whatever reason, you were not right for someone else. It is easy to get hung up on the “whys” behind their decision, but dwelling on them doesn’t change the reality.
One day this realization hit me like a ton of bricks while I was obsessing over the failure of my latest relationship.
To stop feeling terrible and get off this emotional roller coaster for good, I realized I had a choice.
The ups and downs were enough to keep me hooked, as I allowed my feelings about myself to be dictated by the opinions of people I barely knew. Somewhere along the way, I had let my ego get completely tied up in these experiences.
I had fallen into the trap of letting my opinions of my failed relationships shape my opinion of myself. While it was often an uncomfortable, awkward, painful, struggle, eventually I was ecstatic when I found a few that seemed to fit.
So they often parrot off clichés like “you'll meet the right one when you least expect it” and “you'll find him when you aren't looking.” When you're on this emotional roller coaster, these well meaning statements are enough to make you want to cold clock someone in the face.