Moreover, Fiedler says many parents can also use the bathing suit analogy to further help their children define "secret touch" areas.
"You can tell them that any area where a bathing suit covers is their private place -- and this is the area they don't want other people to touch.
Finally ask if anyone tried to have a secret touch.
If your child gets used to hearing these terms they will feel more comfortable sharing information with you on the subject," says Amaranth.
In addition to talking to your kids, child advocacy experts advise parents to listen -- and become tuned in to what is "normal" behavior for their children.